Chapter Nine: The Shame - part 1
by Louise Brown (2000)
Part 1: 9.1: Successful prostitutes coming home - and not so successful prostitutes with stigma -- 9.2: Prostitutes coming home: hard stigma and discrimination in the home village - cases -- 9.3: Prostitutes not coming home but staying in the town with new work -- 9.4: Flight and escape - men customers helping for a flight -- 9.5: Rescue of only a little percentage of the girls - the shelters -- 9.6: Discrimination after the rescue - criminal Asia rejecting sold victims and ex prostitutes -- 9.7: Writer Louise Brown only blaming men - criminal Asian women organizing Asian sex slavery system -- 9.8: Girls and women sacrificing themselves against poverty in the countryside -- 9.9: Writer Louise Brown blaming men for having "power" over young women - but slavery comes from mothers selling daughters and from criminal mama-san - and many men are helping the victims
presented and with subtitles by Michael Palomino (2013)
9.1: Successful prostitutes coming home - and not so successful prostitutes with stigma
It is always easy to begin sex work. The trouble is that in many societies - and especially in Asian societies - it is also almost impossible to leave it. This is because in large parts of the region [Asia] women are still defined by their relationships with men. They are mothers, wives, daughters, or they are public women. Females who choose, or who are forced into, sex work will acquire an identity that will remain with them for the rest of their lives. They can escape physically from prostitution but they cannot escape from being branded a whore in the eyes of society.
[Absolutely criminal Asia is rejecting not only sexual enlightenment, lubricants, sex toys and beautiful porno films, but it lets sell millions of girls into prostitution, lets torture, manipulate and extort them for years AND at the end is even blaming them that somebody has sold them there and that they became victims...]Asian perverse media rating prostitutes as "morally degraded criminals"
Women are permanently shamed by their experiences and find it difficult to speak about their lives, even if there is a sympathetic audience willing to listen. Their silence and shame are built upon sexual trauma and are compounded by public opinion that characterizes prostitutes as morally degraded criminals rather than as the victims and survivors of unjust social systems and perverse sexual codes.
Cutting the lives: AIDS - drug addiction - alcoholism - poverty diseases
Where do all the women go when they are no longer wanted as sex slaves and brothel prostitutes [or cannot longer because they are too old]? This is one of the most difficult (p.233)
questions to answer. Sadly, aging prostitutes often die before they ever enter into old age. HIV / AIDS is a messy but convenient way of getting rid of sex workers made useless by creeping middle age and declining sexual utility. Drug addiction, alcoholism and diseases of poverty also help in reducing the numbers of redundant [not necessary] old women.
In communities where sex work is becoming a career option for girls, retired prostitutes might return home as prodigal daughters after a decade or so selling sex. The girls who left their homes in parts of northern Thailand and Nepal at thirteen may return in their early to mid-twenties. They will bring home their savings and some will also bring HIV. Over 40% of the female sex workers who return to northern Thailand are thought to carry the disease .
 Beyrer: War in the Blood, p.27
Successful prostitutes with great reputation in the family for "upgraded" houses and "consumer goods"
In general only successful girls will return. This is because the stigma associated with prostitution has not been totally eradicated. It can be erased providing the girl has amassed enough money; her relative wealth in the midst of a poor community will buy her social status. The successful women purchase respect through conspicuous [striking] consumption and they flaunt [show] their wealth earned through sex work by upgrading the houses of their families and purchasing showy consumer goods .
 Skrobanek: Traffic in Women, p.92
Not successful prostitutes poor and failed
A girl who returns from the brothels without money cannot buy the status to compensate for the social stigma of selling sex and therefore she 'loses face'. In parts of northern Thailand a poor prostitute is scorned [looked badly] because she is both poor and has failed as a sex worker.
This pattern is increasingly common throughout the Mekong Basin. Social attitudes towards prostitution are being altered [modified] in disadvantaged communities because the financial rewards of successful returning prostitutes are being paraded [shown] before poor families.
[Showing consumer goods around is saving the reputation of the successful prostitutes - also when whole Asie does not know what is a lubricant...]
Successful prostitutes are models for young women in the villages - opening stores - or marriage going abroad
The relative prosperity of returning prostitutes makes them exciting role models for poorly educated girls who have ambitions but no other opportunities to lift themselves out of lives of poverty and toil in the fields or in factories. Returnees open small businesses such as grocery stores and beauty salons with their savings .
 Archavanitkul: Trafficking in Children, p.59
Others are able to (p.234)
marry because their wealth makes them attractive brides to financially insecure bridegrooms.
Former Burmese prostitutes in Thailand are mama-sans now in Burma
Burmese sex workers returning home from Thailand also open businesses. The most ambitious open brothels and utilize the management skills they have acquired in Thailand. [The Burmese town of] Tachilek on the Thai-Burmese frontier [at the other side of Mae Sai] has brothels run by former sex workers. Although they are a little rougher and cheaper than their Thai equivalent, they bear striking resemblance to the brothels in Mae Sai on the opposite side of the border.
Successful Nepali prostitutes coming home from India - with good reputation - good clothes and jewelry are convincing points to copy sex work
Women who return to those communities in the Nepali hills where prostitution is accepted as a survival strategy are also welcomed back home - providing [under the condition] they have contributed to the family's fortunes. Successful sex workers are respected in an environment in which prostitution brings more money into a family's coffers than farming minute plots of land or the unskilled wage labor its men can perform. Again the importance of role models is crucial.
This was how a Nepali woman described her initial decision to travel to India to become a sex worker:
<My family were poor and we didn't have enough land. Sometimes my father worked as a porter and my brothers and I looked after animals but there were lots of children so we never got enough to eat. I was always hungry. There was a woman in the village who worked in India and she used to send money to her family so they had good food with rice and meat. She left her work in India and she came home with lots of money and nice things. She had nice clothes and gold jewelry and bangles and she had different colors of paint for her nails. I wanted to be like her so I said I would go back to India with her and do the same kind of work.>
Some of these returning Nepali women will marry because they can afford to provide themselves with a dowry that is substantial (p.235)
enough to make an impoverished man forget his qualms about his wife's former occupation. Some of these women, like their Thai equivalents, settle down to a happy married life with their new partner. They have children and live contentedly. And some do not.
[Alcoholism in Asia is often hindering a peaceful life. Women coming home from prostitution have often converted into alcoholics. The customers payed all the alcohol and the prostitute was getting it's share of every payed bottle - and correspondingly the share of her brain was eliminated by alcohol. But children don't see this alcoholism but consider it "normal" in Asia...]Failing marriages without children because of many diseases of before
Many of the marriages contracted by former Nepali sex workers last only as long as their money. What is more, many women who return from the brothels are either fertile or sub-fertile as a result of years of sexually transmitted diseases. In the context of a highly traditional society where a woman is valued for her reproductive capacities, the inability to bear children brands them as failed women. They have failed to fulfill the to most basic functions of decent women: to be chaste and fertile. In this case they are despised for being both whores and, what is more, barren [infertile] whores.
Successful prostitutes are only one side of the medal - Asian culture to be mute about bad things - bewaring the family from the shame
Tales of sex workers who return to their place of origin as confident women with stashes [hidden objects] of riches are true. But they do not tell the whole story. In fact they tell a frighteningly one-sided story. The distorted interpretation of prostitution that poor rural communities receive only serves to supply yet more girls to the sex industry and to portray the entire sad, and often violent, business as a kind of development project aiding poor girls from disadvantaged villages.
Rich prostitutes in struggling villages give the impression that it is easy to make money from selling sex. Thai agents [mostly WOMEN], for example will introduce families with teenage daughters to those women who are prostitution's success stories. Understandably, the women who did not manage to make it as prostitutes are never used as an advertisement for a career in sex work. Moreover, few returnees will complain about the conditions they faced. Some want to spare their families from the pain of really knowing what they went through in order to help feed and educate their siblings or to pay for the construction of a new storey on the family home. Women do not want others in the community to know what they endured. They will not tell of the incessant client demands and their inability to say no. They will not talk of powerlessness and fear. Public confessions of shame and pain (p.236)
will cause them to lose face. Instead they remain silent about abuse and concentrate on how successful they have been in earning money. And because no one speaks out about the fact that sex work was really a horrible ordeal, women often think that their experience was unique - that it was not the same for other women and that, perhaps, they were unlucky or maybe that they did something to deserve it. When they believe that their own unhappiness was not shared by other women they are even less likely to speak out and bring shame upon themselves and their families.
Prostitutes mostly stigmatized in Asia - indication of a faked job - but all benefit
Communities in which sex work is accepted as normal are still in a minority. In most parts of Asia prostitution is stigmatized work. This, however, does not stop families sanctioning their daughters' migration to the cities, or to another country, in search of work - work that often turns out to be prostitution. When these girls return home they do not talk about their experiences because it is in everyone's interest to maintain the fiction that she really did do respectable work as a domestic help in a rich person's house or as a waitress in a restaurant. The family benefits because it does not have to accept the shame of sending a child into prostitution and enjoying the fruits of her labor; a girl benefits because she is not publicly embarrassed, and the sex industry benefits because yet another one of its victims is too shamed and her voice is too isolated to challenge its power.
9.2: Prostitutes coming home: hard stigma and discrimination in the home village - cases
China: hard stigma and discrimination not accepting prostitutes coming home
In other communities the stigma of prostitution is ineradicable - or at least it is at the moment [year 2000]. We can safely assume, however, that this will change when the profession can be proved to pay well enough for people to forget how the money was earned. Sex workers returning to Yunnan in southern China report that social stigma from local people is the biggest burden that they have to face in reintegrating themselves into the community .
 Archavanitkul: Trafficking in Children, p.57
Stigma for Asian prostitutes in whole Asia
Prostitution - for women - is a sin from which there is no absolution and no return in large parts of Asia. This applies whether a woman chose to sell sex, whether she was forced by economic circumstance, or whether she (p.237)
was physically coerced. A married woman who has sex with anyone but her husband, or an unmarried woman who has sex with any man, is [in the eyes of violent and mostly alcoholized Asian men and in the eyes of nothing knowing Asian women] a whore no matter what the circumstances may be.
Vietnam: hard stigma and discrimination not accepting prostitutes coming home - constant suspicion
Vietnamese women who have been trafficked to Cambodia or who have chosen to migrate there to work as prostitutes suffer serious discrimination if they are 'rescued' or arrested. They can expect little help even if they are the victims of sexual slavery. Repatriated women who have been held in sexual slavery are still thought to be morally suspect - and all prostitutes are considered to be in need of rehabilitation. They are heavily stigmatized and are forced to live under a regime that bears marked similarities to the kind of incarceration they had recently escaped. They take part in re-education programs and are taught how to earn a decent living. To add to the injustice, women are labeled as illegal migrants and are held up for public condemnation. In some instances this enables them to be victimized by the agents who trafficked them in the first instance [mostly by the criminal MOTHER first]. It is no wonder therefore that few Vietnamese victims of sexual slavery and abuse break the silence that surrounds the industry, the men that exploit them and the hypocrisy of a society that sanctions the injustice by ignoring it.
Nepal: hard stigma and discrimination not accepting prostitutes coming home - constant suspicion
The saddest stories are told by those girls who are born into societies in which a prostitute can never be 'rehabilitated'. These stories are especially common in South Asia. Nepali girls from non-traditional prostitute recruiting grounds face terrible discrimination if they ever return home from the brothels. How the girls entered prostitution in the first place makes absolutely no difference to how she is welcomed back into the family and the village. Returning Nepali girls speak of being ostracized [banned] by other villagers and some describe being rejected by the families who sent them to India when they were children.
This was how a woman returning to Nepal from eight years in Mumbai described her experience of village life:
<It is very hard because I am not used to life in the village (p.238).
There is no electricity and the food is not good. But the worst thing is how people treat me. They think I am not a proper person and that I don't have feelings. When I walk down the road people avoid me and no one wants to talk to me. When I go to the shop the women who are there talking just leave. The men talk about me and sometimes they make rude comments and call me a prostitute. The young boys throw things at me and the other people in the village don't let me take water from the well. They say it is because I am bad and that I will do something to the water. I want to tell them that I am just like everyone else but no one wants to listen to me.>
Bangladesh: hard stigma and discrimination not accepting prostitutes coming home - father does not have her in the house
The Bangladesh National Women Lawyers' Association is the leading Bangladeshi organization working on the issue of trafficking and child prostitution. Its president, Salma Ali, has encountered enormous difficulties in reuniting prostituted and trafficked girls with their families. She cites an example that is not untypical of the cases with which she has to deal. A teenage girl was given to an agent [mostly criminal WOMEN] by her much-married father, who had many children by different wives. She was not sold for cash because her father thought it enough simply to get the girl off his hands and to entertain the possibility that her labor would one day result in money being sent home.
The girls was prostitutes in India and then, after a number of years, was repatriated to Bangladesh with the aid of NGOs. This girl is still a child and wants to return home to her family. Her father however, has other ideas and refuses to accept her back. She is, as he explained to Ms Ali, a disgrace to his family and it would be an embarrassment to have her living in his house. There is nothing that he or anyone else can do to help her. She is a prostitute and therefore she is finished.
Festivities for daughters coming home from prostitution
Prostituted girls are not always sent into sex work by avaricious families. It is impossible to estimate how many families knowingly send their daughters to brothels. But it is a lot easier to say that (p.239)
there are many families who are desperate about the fate of their girls and that they are overjoyed when they are safely returned. Chanthol Oung, the director of the Cambodian Women's Crisis Center, has overseen [managed] the reunion of dozens of girls and their families. She told me that witnessing these reunions can be an immensely moving experience. Clearly, not all girls are sent by their families into a life of prostitution, and their return from a brothel is often a cause for celebration rather than shame. If only that was always the case.
Nepal: the government rejects the coming home of prostitutes from Mumbai - public shame blaming AIDS as "whores' disease" and shaming in newspapers
The Nepali women who were returned from their brothels in Mumbai in 1996 were not welcomed back home. The government did not want them and, true to form, it failed to make arrangements for their repatriation. Instead, a handful of ill-equipped NGOs tried to deal with the women among a barrage of press criticism and public condemnation that vilified the girls as the carriers of AIDS. Like so many Asian countries, Nepal takes very poor care of its daughters. Former sex workers are pariahs [discriminated] in Nepali society. Women with AIDS are classified as carriers of the 'whores' disease', and returning prostitutes are publicly shamed by having their photographs reprinted in the papers along with salacious [erotic] descriptions of their work.
[The taboo of sexuality in Asia with all it's compensative actions, lied and diffamations is an "Asian epidemic"...]
9.3: Prostitutes not coming home but staying in the town with new work
Prostitutes not having the force for going home
The most damaged women never make it home. They die. Or they are so emotionally battered that they cannot face the prospect of reintegration into the communities of their birth. This applies especially to women in less-developed parts of Asia [where everything about sexuality is a taboo and is even rated as "dirty"]. Some may not want to return to the homes they left as children. Like other migrants, they see themselves as being split between two worlds. They have built a life in the city or in a foreign country. For some this may be a good life but, for most, it will be the only kind of life they can envisage and, for some, the only kind of life they can really remember.
Clever prostitutes become mama-sans and brothel owners or recruit new girls - and "keep the system running"
Some brothel workers eventually climb into management positions. These women are good at selling sex and they are shrewd [clever] businesswomen. Ironically, even girls who were initially trafficked (p.240)
and forced into prostitution may become the very women who help to keep the system running. These women are the ultimate survivors of the industry because, in order to survive, they have absorbed its values and made them their own. Such heights within the industry are reserved for a tiny minority of women. A small number will become mama-sans and will rise into this position over a number of years of managing girls within a brothel setting. An even smaller number will become brothel owners.
A larger proportion will enter the management structure at a lower level and will become procurers. With the process of seasoning long past them and with the amnesia created by time and imminent poverty, aging sex workers become the vehicle for the perpetuation of the industry. In order to survive they earn money in the only way they know how: they recruit young girls from the countryside and from poor communities in the towns and then they put them to work as prostitutes. Twenty years before, they themselves had been brought into prostitution in exactly the same way. And so the [vicious] cycle continues.
[The main criminals of prostitution business are WOMEN:Ex prostitutes as baby sitters, cooks, vendors, cleaners, beggars - or worker in an AIDS project
-- criminal mother selling the daughter
-- criminal ex prostitute working as procurers are luring girls into prostitution
-- criminal ex prostitute as a mama-san torturing, manipulating and extorting the new victims for being prostitutes selling the body to men].
Women who do not make it onto the management track and who do not operate as procurers can often find a little niche within the industry as domestic helps for working prostitutes. They may work as baby-sitters or as cooks and cleaners. In the less-developed parts of Asia, women who cannot find work withing the industry will disappear into the informal sector. They will become street vendors, cleaners and beggars.
Women who are approaching middle age and who are no longer desirable commodities within the sex market may be lucky enough to secure a job as a peer [same level] educator in an HIV / AIDS education project. This is because they have lots of experience of the industry and also because their lack of clients means they have time to devote to the project and enough financial need to make it necessary. The luxury of a job in such a project, however, is open only to very, very few.
Elder prostitutes offer more variations of sex: downgraded oral sex and anal sex
Other former brothel-based women stay in sex work but do so (p.241)
under the most demeaning [degrading] conditions. Forced to compete against younger women, they lower their price and expand their repertoire in line with their increasing age. Sex workers who would not have considered offering oral sex as young women (except under conditions of debt bondage) will then offer it as middle age approaches. As old age beckons, anal sex is one of the only ways to make money [for criminal Asia this is just the "most dirty thing" and "most painful thing" where lubricants and clysters are not known]. These least fortunate women are on an ever downward career escalator. They become street prostitutes or the cheapest kind of prostituted women working on the fringes of the brothel sector. In time they can be found selling sex for the price of a bowl of rice or a bucket of water. In India and Bangladesh I have met older women who service men all day and night just to earn the few rupees or taka it takes to pay for a single meal. And some people will tell you that prostitution pays well.
9.4: Flight and escape - men customers helping for a flight
Some cases of flight: jumping through a window, passing the hole of the air condition, or clients are helping
The difficulties faced by women in sexual slavery do not vanish [disappeare] once they have been rescued or have escaped from captivity. Some escape by running way. I met one Nepali girl who had broken her leg by leaping [jumping] from an upper storey of her brothel. A girl in the Philippines had escaped by removing the air-conditioning unit and climbing in through the hole that was left in the wall. Other women plot with sympathetic clients who agree to help them.
Flight to good NGOs - and bad NGOs with 'rehabilitation' for new prostitution with new techniques
Yet, for some, rescue might not be as welcome as we might have predicted. In some cases rescued girls escape one form of abuse for another. Although there are a number of excellent NGOs offering shelter to child prostitutes there are also others that function as a kind of brothel in which the former sex workers and child prostitutes can be abused within a legitimate setting. In Calcutta I met indignant [furious] women who claimed that they had been 'rehabilitated' and placed in homes where they were taught new skills. They said that the male instructors involved in these programs had sexually abused them repeatedly and that, unlike their earlier customers, these men did not pay. Unsurprisingly these young women returned to prostitution once they had completed their 'rehabilitation' (p.242).
9.5: Rescue of only a little percentage of the girls - the shelters
Shelters in bad conditions
The physical conditions of many shelters and women's refuges in poor parts of the region are abysmal and are worse than the brothels from which the women and girls have been saved. India's government homes are notoriously bad. Women and girls are kept in overcrowded conditions with inadequate sanitation. A similar scenario is found in Pakistan where the Dar-ul Aman (government homes) are feared and where a leading charity, the Edhi Foundation, runs shelters which are well managed bout which verge [tend to] on the draconian.
Not enough shelters and equipment
Only a small proportion of the victims of trafficking and sexual slavery are ever rescued. Even so there are never adequate facilities to assist the small number who manage to escape and who require help. There is rarely even enough sympathy.
Example in Calcutta: AIDS teen prostitute is refused in hospitals several times
I met a delightful teenage girl in Calcutta who was suffering from AIDS after being compelled to sell sex since she was a small child. The NGO that was caring for her told me that it had been difficult to find any doctor willing to treat her and that she had been taken to a string of hospitals in which she had been shunned and turned away by the medical staff.
Example in Japan: Vietnamese woman trafficked from Thailand to Japan dying - nobody wants to take responsibility
This kind of attitude is typical of rich as well as poor societies [in criminal Asia]. In Japan I met a Vietnamese woman who had worked in Thailand and who had then been trafficked to Japan and forced to provide sexual services. Eventually she was ejected from her 'snack' because she had contracted HIV either in Japan or perhaps before her arrival in the country. However, because she was an illegal migrant and had no proof of her nationality the Vietnamese government refused to repatriate her. Thailand accepted no responsibility for her and the Japanese refused to pay for her medical treatment on the grounds that she was not Japanese. As I write this [year 2000] she is living and dying in limbo [without a stable state] - a stateless person and a victim of trafficking.
Shelters as "reform schools" - trip home if it's possible
Some of the worst [best?] shelters are a kind of reform school. The best are places that allow the grief and sorrow of the girls and women to be expressed and their worth as human beings to be affirmed. They provide the women with the psychological support that helps them (p.243)
to readjust. Sanlaap, an NGO working with child prostitutes in Calcutta, is a positive example for other shelters. It provides counseling to the girls it cares for. The youngest are educated and the older girls are given vocational training in semi-skilled work. Wherever possible the girls are returned to their homes and, when it is not possible, they stay at the shelter until they are adults.
Psychological problems after rescuing the girls - manual skills bring no profit
The rescue of girls and young women may be difficult but it is far easier than deciding what to do with them once they have been rescued. Many are suffering from psychological problems and staff at some shelters talk candidly [openly] about the difficulties in caring for child prostitutes. The girls have been accustomed to an irregular schedule and to wearing fashionable clothes and jewelry. In a shelter they may have to follow a fairly strict routine and to abandon their fine clothes. They have also been accustomed to constant sexual attention. The consequent behavioral problems include disruptive behavior, lack of concentration, aggression and conflict between the girls and the members of staff, episodes of violence, self-mutilation and long periods of deep depression. Suicide is not uncommon.
Reintegrating girls and women into mainstream society poses even greater difficulties. The skills that former sex workers are taught after leaving prostitution are rarely sufficient to secure them a living wage. In less-developed Asia, the girls and women who are the victims of trafficking and sexual slavery are very poorly educated. That is why they found themselves in prostitution in the first instance and why they find it difficult to escape from it. Skills such as block-printing [for clothes], mat-weaving [with mat grass] and candle-making that are taught to former sex workers might give the women a pride in their ability to create but, unfortunately, they rarely give them an income that is adequate to live on.
Flight back to the brothel
Women who have been rescued and taught a more 'worthy' way of earning a living often end up right back in the brothels from which they escaped. In South Asia, in particular, there is no road back from prostitution. It is virtually impossible for them (p.244)
to be reintegrated into society and for them to marry. For most, prostitution is their only option.
Example: "rescue" by a raid in Mumbai getting AIDS affected prostitutes out - and new girls in
In 1996 the police authorities in Mumbai decided to round up prostitutes in one of its periodic purges of vice. Ostensibly [on the surface] this action was a crackdown on child prostitution. IN fact it was nothing of the sort. Rumors, based upon hard facts,were circulating that the HIV prevalence rate in the city's red light areas was around 60%. Action was therefore necessary to clean up the industry, to get the diseased women out and, presumably, to get new and clean ones in.
Over two hundred Nepali women and girls were 'rescued' in this operation. A significant proportion of these women did not want to be 'rescued'. In a survey of the rescued women, 56% of those who responded stated that they did not want to return to the brothel. Of the 44% who did, 29% said that they were happy to be sex workers while the rest cited other reasons. The most common were that they had no other skills, that they could not return to society, that they had dependent families to support and that they would otherwise be destitute [without money] .
 Gracy Fernandes: 'Report on the Rescue of Commercial Sex Workers', p.15
Many sex working women don't want to be "rescued" but feel accustomed to it
Sex workers in South Asia repeat similar stories about their acceptance of prostitution. A woman in Lahore [in Pakistan] described her enmeshment [involvement] in the industry in this way:
<I don't like this work but there is nothing else that I can do, I haven't got a good husband and family. I haven't got an education. I am an ignorant woman. This thing - entertaining men - is the only thing I can do.>
9.6: Discrimination after the rescue - criminal Asia rejecting sold victims and ex prostitutes
Normal society in criminal Asia is discriminating ex prostitutes
In mainstream society these women are shunned [discriminated] as social outcasts. In the brothel they are accepted. They are vulnerable to physical and sexual abuse but, when they are among other women like themselves, they have protection from society's scorn. They are buffered from contempt [discrimination].
Example Bangladesh: discrimination of ex prostitutes and their familiar members
Prostitutes from Bangladesh's Goalunda brothel are ostracized [shamed] from the society of respectable people. They (p.245)
are not allowed to wear shoes in public places and they are not allowed to bury or cremate their dead. Instead their bodies are thrown into the river. Yet within the brothel community the women find acceptance. Where on earth would they find the courage to leave the only people who treat them as human?
Discrimination is locking prostitutes within the brothel prisons
Social contempt and a sense of being shamed locks women in the countries of South Asia into brothels. The internationalization of the bad woman image is one of the most effective chains tying women into sex work. These women and girls carry the heaviest burden of the sexual double standard. A Khmer proverb 'Men are gold, women are cloth' encapsulates the mentality that pervades most Asian societies - just as it did Western societies until very recently. A young Cambodian woman explained the proverb in a 1993 study:
<The men look like gold. When it drops in mud we can clean it, but the women look like white clothes: when it drops in mud we cannot clean it to be white again.> 
 Phan and Paterson: Men are Gold, Women are Cloth, p.19
There can be fewer greater injustices than the stigmatization of prostitutes in societies in which many - and sometimes most - men buy sex.
[Criminal Asia is saving it's "joy" in the brothels by stigmatizing prostitutes and keeping them even in captivity. And the culprits are above all WOMEN...]
9.7: Writer Louise Brown only blaming men - criminal Asian women organizing Asian sex slavery system
Men have created this skewed and horrible sexual system and individual women are blamed for it.
[WRONG! Writer Louise Brown neglects all criminality of WOMEN in the Asian sex slavery system - Louise Brown seems to be blind:But acknowledging that the stigmatization of prostitution is wrong should not lead us to the conclusion that prostitution is acceptable. I cannot believe that prostitutes, as individuals, should be held in contempt. It is the institution of prostitution, the people who profit from it, and the men who enjoy it who deserve our unreserved condemnation.
-- criminal mothers are selling their daughters
-- traffickers are often also Asian women
-- criminal mama-san brothel owners are converting the brothel in to a brothel prison for girls
-- criminal mama-san brothel owners are torturing, manipulating and extorting the girls and the young women with debt slavery
-- criminal mama-san brothel owners are deciding that girls have often more than 10 or even 15 to 20 customers per day.
And men (customers) are often helping the victims, or criminal mama-san brothel owners are even disrupting contacts limiting a visit of a customer with a victims to only one time. More criminality by ASIAN WOMEN is not possible - and ASIAN WOMEN MINISTERS in the government are tolerating this torture system which is mostly run by CRIMINAL ASIAN WOMEN].
[Unfortunately author Louise Brown did not see once again all the CRIMINAL ASIAN WOMEN in the prostitution system].
9.8: Girls and women sacrificing themselves against poverty in the countryside
On one occasion a young Cambodian man who worked for NGO grew agitated when I asked him about the Vietnamese prostitutes in Phnom Penh. 'Some people', he insisted, 'say that they are immoral women... but they have so much honor. They choose to come here because their families are so poor and there is nothing for them in Vietnam.'
I knew exactly what he meant. Many of the women (p.246)
I have met in the course of the research for this book have been anything but immoral. They have survived abuse and exploitation and have sought to live with as much dignity as their occupation allows them. They are mothers who have sold sex in order for their children to eat, they are poor girls escaping impoverished homes and they are young women who are sold for sex so that their brothers and sisters can have a better chance in life than they themselves were offered.
Prostitution, in these instances, is a human rights abuse.
[Criminal governments with their CRIMINAL WOMEN MINISTERS are not installing any social networks are NOT mentioned!]And so is the poverty and the limited life chances that force or encourage many women to sell their bodies in the first case.
9.9: Writer Louise Brown blaming men for having "power" over young women - but slavery comes from mothers selling daughters and from criminal mama-sans - and many men are helping the victims
Prostitution is not always about violence but it is always about power. It is about the power to buy intimacy and the power to establish a relationship of domination.
[Also this is absolutely WRONG because many men are even helpint ghe girls and the young women for their flight as it was described above].The apparently civilized transaction between elite prostitutes and their clients in luxury hotels is underpinned by the same logic that underpins the forcible sale of girls in a Bangladeshi brothel. This logic is premised on a value system that grades girls and women - and sometimes men and boys - according to their sexual value. This logic is sustained [permitted] by the emptiness of those men who buy sex and by the commercialization of life that makes prostitution increasingly possible.
[WRONG: Asian women make prostitution possible in AsiaMore criminal propaganda of writer Louise Brown against men blaming them having organized prostitution - all is wrong
Asian women at home reject good sex because they don't know anything about good sex having no knowledge about lubricants and oils and toys and their vagina points, but good sex would only hurt them because they mean that hurt would be normal - and then these Asian women send their husbands to the brothels which are also run by Asian women].
Objections to prostitution are not simply based on the importance of aesthetics and the importance of preserving sex as a celebration of life rather than as a mechanical and commercial engagement. Neither is it a matter of religious puritanism. Prostitution should be condemned because it encapsulates the very worst of human failings: the exploitation of the weakest; the power of money; the superficiality of appearance; men's abuse of power; and the categorization of women according to their sexual utility and their relationship to men.
[Condemn prostitution?This book has focused upon the brothel the brothel sector of mass-market prostitution and upon some of the most exploited people within the sex industry. The scale of the abuse that these girls and women have suffered tends to be diluted the further we ascend in the prostitution hierarchy. Righteous crusades against prostitution have tended to (p.247)
Condemn prostitution would mean that ASIAN WOMEN should learn about sex - what they don't want until today (2013). Also the WOMEN MINISTER OF CULTURE, WOMEN MINISTER OF EDUCATION, AND WOMEN MINISTER OF FAMILY - don't want to learn about sexuality but keep the topic as a taboo as it has been for 2,000 years in crazy Asia with brothel systems run by WOMEN for men making money with the men - defining sexuality as "dirty"].
fasten upon atrocities within the industry in order to discredit it and to whip up moral indignation. These sorts of crusades feed on rumors and they work upon fears and anxieties.